Abusers…

 

Abusers….

Not sure why I am to do this one…but was it on my heart…I found several articles with lists of traits of abusers. I did not come from an abusive home life or live in an abusive marriage…I do know those who have survived both with lifelong consequences…

Their fears, their shame, their joys of release, their comfort to others, their walk with Jesus have been a testimony of grace and love to many…

But, also, on the current world scene, some of these traits are exhibiting themselves…

1. “The Profile – 25 Traits Of An Abuser”

2. “Abusers are master manipulators. Most of the time you may not even realize someone is an abuser because they wait until they are behind closed doors with their victim before unleashing their abusive side. 

Below are 12 common characteristics of an abuser you may not be aware of.

1. Controlling
Abusers are always trying to gain control over their victims. They do this physically, through restraint and battery, and emotionally, by establishing himself in every branch of her life.

2. Charming
Abusers portrays themselves as warm, kind, and caring in order to gain trust and discredit claims of abuse against them.

3. Jealous
Abusers may become jealous and angry when their victim spends time with their friends, when they text other people, or even when they go to work.

4. Inconsistent
Abusers often exhibit mood swings, and these are unpredictable. They may be smiling one moment and enraged the next.

5. Manipulative
Abusers say specific things to evoke responses from their victims. They know exactly what to say and how to act in order to get what they want.

6. Threatening
Abusers are known for threatening their victims, but they may also threaten to harm their pets, their children, or even themselves as a means of maintaining control over their victim.

7. Demanding
Abusers want complete power over their victims. They often demand to know where their victims go, who they see, and what they do at all times.

8. Blames the Victim
Abusers place all the blame on others and never on themselves. They may recite lines such as “If you did what I asked I wouldn’t have to hurt you” or “I only hit you because you told your friends about me.”

9. Attacks Self-Esteem
Abusers want to make their victims feel reliant on them. They will tell the victim that they are worthless, ugly, stupid, or unwanted. The less worth they have, the more the victim feels they need their abuser.

10. Isolation
Abusers often want to be the only one their victims talk to and depend on. They will try to isolate them from their friends, family, and coworkers so they will have nowhere to go.

11. Rigid Gender Roles
Abusers might hold rigid, outdated beliefs about gender roles that place women as inferior to men. They might believe that women should stay within the home, obey orders from men, and do whatever possible to please men. He expects this treatment from her.

12. Destruction of Property
Abusers intimidate their victims by breaking their belongings. He might do this to punish his victim; he will destroy things that she needs in order to send the message that whatever he breaks could have been her, or that she could be next.

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger, please call our COPEline at 888-285-5665 available 24 hours a day. “

From Women safe organization….

There are those whose teeth are swords, whose fangs are knives, to devour the poor from off the earth, the needy from among mankind.

Proverbs 30:14

For you gladly bear with fools, being wise yourselves! For you bear it if someone makes slaves of you, or devours you, or takes advantage of you, or puts on airs, or strikes you in the face.

2 Corinthians 11:19-20

Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.

1 Peter 5:8

Remember your word to your servant, in which you have made me hope. This is my comfort in my affliction, that your promise gives me life.

Psalm 119:49-50

Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. 

For as we share abundantly in Christ's sufferings, so through Christ we share abundantly in comfort too. 

If we are afflicted, it is for your comfort and salvation; and if we are comforted, it is for your comfort, which you experience when you patiently endure the same sufferings that we suffer. 

Our hope for you is unshaken, for we know that as you share in our sufferings, you will also share in our comfort.

2 Corinthians 1:3-7

Thank YOU For your comfort…healing power….